Second Plantings

At this point in the gardening year many people opt to do what is known as a second planting. This is the planting of a second batch of cool weather crops that do well as the mornings and evenings begin to turn chilly and can even withstand a light frost. Some of those plants that do well are lettuce, broccoli, cauliflower, Brussel sprouts, and many others. It is nice to know that even after everything else is harvested and the garden is beginning to look lost, there is still the possibility of enjoying fresh veggies and salads well into autumn. Some folks don’t realize that they can do this once the rest of the garden is harvested and ready to put to bed for the season. What a treat when we get a second chance at something we enjoy.

Sometimes we don’t realize that we can have a second chance to enjoy those things we believed we had to give up in order to grow up, or that we never pursued because it wasn’t high enough on our priority list. We used to love to dabble in art, but gave it up to get a “real job.” We enjoyed singing in the choral group at school, but gave up the idea of singing to raise a family. We watched in envy as our daughters took dance lessons, feeling the music speak to our feet and our souls.

 But here is the good news, Baby Boomers: the job is over, the kids are out of the nest, and the music is still playing if you just take the time to listen. Now is the time to plant some new seeds. You’re not in the dead of winter yet! Picking up some inexpensive art supplies is planting a new seed. Checking with your local library or community college to see if they offer beginner art classes is like planting another seed. Maybe there is a local church or choral group that could use another voice. No harm in planting that seed. And while you’re looking for art classes, look for a beginner dance class as well. Scatter those seeds anywhere and everywhere!

Just remember that it is never too late to plant a new seed of desire. As any gardener will tell you, some will take root and bloom, and some won’t. However, you’ll never know if you don’t try. You just never know what might come up!

 And so it is.

P.S. And while we’re on the subject of second plantings, don’t forget to check out my new ebook: “Second Chances: Lessons In Wisdom From A Life Well Lived.” It’s full of suggestions and lessons on second chances for every area of our lives. Available from Amazon Kindle

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Kiss the Earth Gently

This morning dawned overcast and cool. The early mornings and late evenings have already started their journey towards autumn here. Of course we’ll still get some heat and humidity well into September as summer makes a last stand before turning over the baton to the next season, but I’ve arrived at the point in the summer when I am done with it all. I want to wake up to crisp, clear air, throw on a sweatshirt and go outside. I want to see the corn waving in the wind, waiting to be harvested. I want to smell that very special smell that only comes in September … I want it to smell like the first day of school.

When I was a little girl, I can remember going outside in the mornings in late August and telling my mom, “It smells like school in the air.” I always loved school. I got a distinct feeling of excitement buying school supplies, inhaling the aroma of freshly sharpened pencils, and gazing longingly at the clean, blank pages of my notebooks just waiting for wisdom and knowledge to fill in the lines.  I still feel that way today. Every year when parents are filling their shopping carts with school supplies, I join in. I get myself a stack of brand new spiral notebooks, a pack of No. 2 pencils, a new highlighter, and some new pens. I take an especially long time buying my pens. I want to see how it will feel in my hand. I want to be assured that it will glide across the pages as the inspiration pours out of me (hopefully!).

I am a life-long learner, something I talk about in my new book: Second Chances: Lessons In Wisdom From A Life Well Lived,” (available through Amazon). Every year after I have my “school supplies” purchased and neatly put away in my desk, I ask myself if there has been any subject or idea that I have come across recently that has ignited a desire in me to know more about it?  One year it was quantum physics. Another year it was advanced container gardening. This year I am fascinated with the whole subject of developing permaculture – the development of agricultural ecosystems designed to be sustainable and self-sufficient without the use of pesticides, chemicals or anything that harms the earth. I figure if I start studying now, I’ll have a handle on it by next spring when, hopefully, I’ll be able to put what I’ve learned into practice.

You all know that I am a vegan. It seems natural that a desire to learn about responsible, natural and sustainable food production would follow. I no longer want my footprint upon dear Mother Earth to be harsh and heavy. I want my presence here to kiss the earth gently, and to teach my grandchildren to do the same. So I guess it’s time to crack open a notebook, sharpen a pencil and put Google Search to work.

Mom, it smells like school out there.

And so it is.

Knowing When It's Time To Bury Your Acorns

I just love the way the Universe works! When you ask for guidance and a sign, you get it in ways you couldn't even imagine if you tried. Sometimes we're just not observant enough or focused enough to see those signs, and when we miss what's right in front of us, we wonder if our prayer were even heard. Happily, this was not the case last week. If anything, I got signs that I couldn't miss if I fell over them.

On a day when I had trouble deciding what to have for breakfast, let alone where I was supposed to be going in my personal as well as my creative life, I tearfully threw up my hands and addressed my Creator, my angels, my spirit guides, and anyone else who was willing to listen: "I have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing next.  I know I need to break out of the box and challenge myself to do something different. Doing what is comfortable is very nice and safe, but I know I'm here to do more than that. So if the new direction I've been considering is the next right step on my journey, could you please send me a sign so I'll know? And could you make it something I can easily recognize? Thank you. Amen."

I love it when the Universe has a sense of humor. The first sign I saw was that very afternoon. For anyone who is a fan of the work of the late Wayne Dyer, the teacher of my heart for over 20 years, you will know what I mean when I talk about his "Butterfly Story." For those of you who don't, Wayne shared a story about a very lengthy visit from a monarch butterfly he had immediately after writing a story about a friend of his who had died and how the last conversation he had with that man was about monarch butterflies. He immediately took that as a sign that his friend was communicating with him from the Other Side. Well, I had a visit from a monarch butterfly. In case you don't think that means much given that I live in the country surrounded by flowers, let me just say that in the two years I've been here, the only butterflies I've seen have been all white ones. So when this big, beautiful monarch butterfly not only flew into view, but attached itself to the screen right outside the window where I write ... and stayed there for an hour ... I could not help but get the message. Even my cats could not scare it off. I called him Wayne. We had a lovely one-sided chat for the hour that he hung out with me. (Side Note of Interest: the anniversary of Wayne's death is coming up at the end of this month).

The second message was literally the answer to a prayer. A brown and red squirrel decided to take a quick shortcut across my front walkway and up the hill towards the pine trees. If you've been following my blogs for a while, you know that I've written in the past about how much I missed the squirrels from back where I used to live, and about how I could not believe that in two years I had not seen a single one. The locals told me that too many predators had moved into the neighborhood, like the eagles and hawks from down near the pond, while the dozens of barn cats from the farm up the hill had probably killed or chased off the rest. I had refused to believe that I was going to spend the rest of my days here surrounded by trees of all kinds and never see another squirrel. Lo and behold, when I asked for a sign, one came scampering across my field of vision! So naturally I went right to my books on animal totems and here is what it told me: if a squirrel has crossed your path, it is telling you to lighten up and not take life so seriously. At the same time, it is reminding you to lay your foundation for the future, to bury your acorns. As the old poem says, "mighty oaks from little acorns grow." This little guy was telling me that, while I needed to remember to lighten up and enjoy life, it was time for me to bury my acorns and start growing something new.

I came away from all of this confident that the new direction I had been thinking of taking was what I was meant to do next. So for the next several days, I went to work with a new enthusiasm and on August 29th, my new "brand" will be launched. It will consist of: 1. The release of my new ebook, "Second Chances: Lessons in Wisdom From a Life Well Lived,- Book Two In the Third Age Trilogy ("Song Of An Extraordinary Life" was Book One)" 2. My first very own website: Barb Parcells, Writing A Life ,with a new blog by the same name, and,  3. A sale on my first two ebooks to celebrate the release of Second Chances (more to follow on this next week). For those of you who are followers of Flower Bear's Garden, please know that it will continue as always. Life would not be the same without taking the time to visit the garden and see what lessons it has to teach all of us each week and throughout the seasons of the year. That means I will be writing two blogs a week, plus working on the final book in the Third Age Trilogy. I think I'm set with projects for a while, don't you?

I will admit, it was scary to think about starting a website and another blog. I am not technically savvy and my Geek Squad (my oldest granddaughter and her husband) no longer lives a few blocks away as they did when I started Flower Bear's Garden. While I know that the website may be a bit rocky getting started as I learn to do this on my own, I figure if Creator has so much confidence in me, who am I to argue? I am excited and a bit breathless by it all, but at the same time I look forward to the new journey I am embarking on. I hope you will all go on this journey with me, as you have for the nearly 4 years in the garden with Flower Bear and me. I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your love, support and comments. It has given me more joy than you know.

See you all next week in the garden, as always.  And so it is.

P.S. Nice flying, Wayne. Very impressive, but then everything you do soars! Blessings!

Finding Grace in Surrender

I am not someone who gives up easily, especially if the cause is something near and dear to my heart, like gardening. However, I have lived enough years on this earth to know when I am beaten. I bow to a very powerful tag team: men and construction.

Since mid-April the house where I rent a ground floor/basement combo apartment has been under construction. The owners are turning the one-family upstairs into two apartments. The work is being done in phases as time allows and people are available. It reminds me of that delightful book that was later made into an equally delightful mini series on PBS called: "A Year In Provence," by Peter Mayle. It tells the story of an English couple who decide to chuck it all and move to the beautiful region of Provence, in France, where they will renovate an old farmhouse and live in peace and simplicity. However, the local tradespeople have a different work ethic than the industrious Brits, and when they say they will be back on Tuesday, it does not necessarily mean next Tuesday. It could mean a Tuesday three months from then. The book documents the couple's hilarious education into simple, rural living and how they managed to survive it all and keep their sanity intact. I feel like I am living in Provence.

When it came time to clean up the garden in the spring and prepare the beds, I was surrounded by trucks, dumpsters and piles of ripped out walls, cement, nails and other debris. The tulips were smashed under piles of broken concrete. At every turn there were construction trucks, plumbers, electricians, piles of lumber, and pieces of wall board blowing in the wind. There was nowhere to set up my containers and my mini green house. Then they kept turning off my Internet, my water and my power. I finally managed to get a few containers out there only through the hard work of my 9 year old granddaughter who may look skinny but who had no problem carrying hugs sacks of soil down the driveway where we assumed it would be safe to put the containers. The lettuce and basil have roused to the occasion, although Rosemary seems to be afraid to poke her head through more than an inch and the spinach is anemic. They were planted late and not in the optimal spot for the best growth. Alas, the biggest casualty has been the tomatoes. After painstakingly hauling water from the house to water them - they kept shutting off the hose - they succumbed to several days of torrential downpours that backed up a river in their pots which plugged the drainage holes and would not let the water out fast enough. The entire bottom of the plants are gone, and only about 6 grape tomatoes remain to turn red, if ever. As for the weeding, only a machete and a strong back could get through what should have been tackled ages ago with only minimum upkeep needed afterward. It was when I walked out and saw my drowned tomatoes that I threw up my hands, waved the white flag and told the Universe, "I Surrender! I Give up! It's all yours!"

Sometimes we just have to accept the idea that not every plan is going to work out the way we'd like, and we cannot control every event in our lives. Last year I came to accept the fact that, as excited as I was to finally be able to live somewhere that had an actual garden to play in, some physical setbacks were not going to permit me to go back to the way I used to garden before the injury to my hip. That was okay. I found ways to still enjoy gardening, still have a hand in creation, and still take pride in the harvest. This year, no way. So what do you do with those lemons you've been handed? You make lemonade and use the seeds to plant something new, like patience, gratitude and acceptance. It won't be the last time I'll ever get to garden, and it also won't be the last time that I won't be in control of how something works out. Let go and let God, as they say in the recovery movement.

So where is the grace in surrendering? It was there when I looked out among the weeds one day to see wild roses growing where I'd never seen them growing before. It was there when I saw wild morning glories wrapping themselves around the lambs ear and boasting beautiful white flowers at sunrise. It was there when the wild strawberries, unimpeded by anything I might have planted there, took over, much to the delight of my grandkids who went out to pick them and came back laughing with red fingers and mouths. It was there when the local critters came out early in the morning to eat the clover and dandelions. Grace. Grace in what Mother Nature has planned and executed, beauty in the randomness and gratitude in the bounty. Grace.

And so it is.

May The Force Be With You, Or, How I Almost Let Darth Vader Ruin A Good Time

Sitting here on a beautiful Sunday morning, looking at crisp blue skies and fluffy white clouds, while a cool breeze waves the corn in the fields, I cannot think of a better place to be where the energy and spirit of nature is more present. It reminds me of Star Wars when Obi Wan tells Luke Skywalker that “The Force is strong here.” The longer I live here, the stronger The Force, also known as spirit, Mother Nature, God, etc.,  takes root within me and I feel the connection to All That Is … which is why I hate it when my inner Darth Vader comes out, and come out he does.

 I don’t know if it’s because I’m older and at an age where I no longer tolerate stuff I always just took for granted as “well, that’s just the way it is,” but when you plop me down in the middle of crowds, rudeness and inconsiderate behavior, old Darth comes out loud and clear.  Take the other night, for example.

For my birthday recently, my sister got tickets to take me to see Rick Springfield in concert. You may remember him as Dr. Noah Drake on General Hospital, and also as a singer, musician, songwriter and actor. I had a huge crush on him back in the ‘80’s and when I found out he was coming to perform at our annual Spidie Fest and Balloon Rally, I was thrilled. (Side Note: for those of you who are wondering what the heck a Spidie is, it is chunks of either chicken or pork that are marinated and grilled, and served either on a bun, on top of rice, even in a salad. It is our local claim to fame around here and people come for miles around to taste it. I am sworn to secrecy as to the recipe for the marinade). Anyway, Friday night found my sister and I making our way to the area where they had set up the soundstage, carrying our chairs for the on-the-grass seating. However, when we got there, the people seated in chairs were out-flanked by the people standing around the stage, blocking everyone’s view. Many of them were waving huge signs and making it even more difficult to see. Now I am said to be of average height but that night I felt like a dwarf among giants. Every time I said, “Excuse me, could you move your sign so I can see,” people turned around and stared at me like I was insulting them or. One young girl, who probably wasn’t even born when this man was on TV, was waving her hands all over like she was trying to dry her nails, and the huge satchel she had on her arm was whacking me in the head. When I asked her to please move over or put her purse down, she said something rude that I won’t repeat here but the mother in me was wishing she had a bar of soap on hand. It was at that very moment that I heard old Darth calling me over to the Dark Side: “These rebels need to be dealt with, “and I was more than willing to go. All around me people who were old enough to know better were pushing and shoving each other out of the way to get closer. I was wishing I had a light saber handy! I just wanted to enjoy the concert, take a walk down my personal rock and roll memory lane, and gaze adoringly at the hottest 67 year old man – just my age, thank you - that you will ever see, and they were turning it into a contact sport.

At some point my sister tapped me on the shoulder and informed me that she was moving to the back of the crowd to sit down since the speakers were hurting her ears (“If it’s too loud, you’re too old,” as Rick reminded us from the stage) and she wasn’t the fan, I was. As I looked behind me, I saw rows and rows of people sitting on lawn chairs, clapping to the music and laughing, and I realized that I was making my old nemesis, and Darth Vader’s right hand girl, Miss “I’m Right and You’re Wrong,” ruin the whole evening for me. So I went within and called on my inner Yoda to guide me out of the Dark Side. I was there to hear this guy sing, listen to his amazing guitar playing, let the music make my feet feel 30 years younger, and have a good time … NOT to look for reasons to be offended. I was not going to let the behavior of others ruin my night. So I stepped back, found a place with some space around me, and just started to sing along. Once I finally let the music in, it lit up my soul and my spiritual light saber chased old Darth back to the other side of the galaxy.

Now it is Sunday morning and I am again surrounded by The Force. There are no unruly crowds here, not even the herd of cows from up the hill. My landlord is cutting the grass and the smell is wafting in on the breeze. I’m getting ready to go out and cut some lettuce from the garden for my luncheon salad and afterwards I’ll take my afternoon stroll. Today the only music I want to hear are the crows flying over the corn fields and the clinking of the neighbor’s wind chimes.

May The Force be with you.

And so it is.

Weathering Life's Storms

I’m too old for this crap. I’m too old for all the heartbreak, the death and destruction. I’m tired of witnessing pain, and fear, and I’m not just talking about the world stage. I’m also talking about the stage that goes on right outside my window in the natural world.

One of my landlady’s cats got out. She has two housecats and a dog, and during all of this construction going on in the house, with workmen coming and going, and doors being left open, each and every one of them has gotten out. The dog, the one I dog-sit for when they go away, is easy to lure back with food and baby talk. Ebony, the very large male cat, seems to be able to fend for himself in the big, bad world and eventually comes back on his own terms. However, Abbey, the female, never goes outside. She is big, like her brother, but a bit of a sissy. She is terrified of the dog and masks her fears by hissing at people and things she dislikes. She has never been one of my fans, always hissing when I attempted to befriend her, and I suspect it is the smell of my own two female cats that prompts that (as opposed to Ebony who treats me like I’m the nicest human he ever met). In any case, Abbey got out the other day and we could not find her. She is not worldly like her brother and we were fearful that she would either wander out into the road or become a victim to the gang of barn cats that use our yard like it was their own.

Finally, on Friday, I found her in the small garage next to my front door which had been left open by the workmen. She cowered and hissed, but at least we knew she was okay and out of the rain that had moved in. I went in and brought out food and water, and kept an eye on her, talking and cooing. She stayed out there all day Friday and Saturday. It was impossible to go in after her because there were piles of lumber and power tools and too many nooks she could crawl into. Finally, this morning, after a storm that knocked out power and poured down rain, I saw her laying right outside my writing window as if she were waiting for me. When I went out, she was all loving and rubbing her face on my shoe. Speaking softly to her all the time I scooped her up before she knew what hit her and took her inside to her pet parents. She is in dire need of a bath and was pretty spooked by the whole ordeal, but otherwise she has survived.

When I went back out to clean up the dishes I’d left there for her with food and water, not wanting the barn cats to think this was their second home, I spied something dark and fuzzy in the food dish. My heart just broke. It was Vincent, the little grey vole who lived in my garden and to whom I said hello every morning as he scurried from one side of the yard to the other after breakfast, and then back again at dinner time just like a guy going to work and then coming home after a long day of doing whatever it is that voles do. I could not believe that Abbey, an indoor cat all of her life, would even know what to do with such an animal, let alone to kill it and then put it in her food dish! I picked up the dish and went out into the garden, in the rain, and dug out a little place underneath one of the huge hosta plants that I had seen him come out of and go into each day.

So I saved one animal friend but lost another one. Like the day I found a robin’s nest laying on the ground with five little eggs crushed, and the tiny baby birds still inside who had never had a chance, I raged at the Universe. No, it’s not Dallas, or Orlando, or Newtown. It’s not Nice, or Syria. It’s just part of country life. Well, I hope I never get so thick skinned that I treat life and death cheaply and without feeling, shrugging it off as if that's just the way life is. I hope I will always get angry, because when I get angry, I get going.  I speak out on issues that are important to me and for those that have no voice to speak for themselves. I sign petitions, give what I can, do what I can, from where I am and with what I have. I hope I never get so hardened by despair that I turn my back on it and hide inside with the doors locked when the storms of life lash out. I hope I will always go out in the rain and give my friends, even the smallest and seemingly insignificant among us, the love and respect they deserve as living, breathing, sentient beings on this planet.

Upstairs I know that Abbey is now safe and I celebrate her life. Outside my window, under the umbrellas of the hosta plant in the rain, I celebrate little Vincent’s life, too, and all the animals and children of the world that need a champion. May I always be up to the challenge.

And so it is.

Just A Few Reflections

     Today is my birthday. I am 67 years old. Surprised? So was I when I got up this morning. I used to be reluctant to admit my true age, especially after I hit 60. Over the past few years, however, I've turned a corner, metaphorically. I've headed down a new path that takes me in a new direction, away from the old cultural beliefs about aging and into a new and exciting adventure in this amazing Third Age that I am currently experiencing. No one before the Baby Boomer Generation has ever been on this adventure before and I am both honored and privileged to be along for the ride.

     I started this post while sitting at my writing table in front of the big window that looks out over the fields of new growing corn and the valley below, where the blueberry farm has just opened for the season and is doing a brisk business. With coffee in hand I was watching the morning antics of the birds and the smaller critters who have come to live with me in this piece of heaven on earth and, as I always do, I also kept a eye to the skies, keeping a lookout for the hawk that lives down by the pond and pays us a daily visit. Every morning he makes a low, slow circle over the area, riding the air currents and keeping his sharp eyes open for his morning meal. I hold my breath as he passes over head and find myself calling out of the window to the chipmunks, the voles, the mice, old rabbit who lives out back and chubby woodchuck who lives down the hill but comes up for his breakfast: "Take cover!" Thankfully so far he eventually widens his search parameters and moves on. This morning, however, he did not come. He did not get up early enough. A dark and ominous looking bank of clouds moved in swiftly right after sunrise followed by rolling thunder that sounded like a dozen kettle drums and, finally, a downpour of Biblical proportions. I prayed that the little ones had found cover before the deluge hit.

     As much as I don't want to see the hawk swoop down and capture one of my little friends, I felt sorry for him this morning because he was going to have to wait even longer for his meal. I realized that I had been making the hawk the bad guy, the criminal, for only doing what all hawks do and, for that matter, what all of us do - trying to life his life as who he truly was. Just like us he has a job to do, and a family to feed. Just like us he wants to live his life soaring on the currents and knowing the exhileration of being alive. I could not expect him to behave in any way other than who he was, and I was certainly well acquainted with what it felt like when people expected that of me or other folks my age. If anything, I had to let go of the limiting belief that I had of him as someone to be despised, destroyed and feared. I had to accept a new idea of him that said even birds of prey deserve to live a long and happy life in freedom and happiness.

     We all deserve to live a long and happy life being who we truly are and not allowing ourselves to be pushed into some tight, uncomfortable box that others have built to keep us in check. The whole idea about conscious aging and breaking down culturally built walls around getting older is to allow us to be who we are. and know that it is ok to continue to try out our own wings and soar to new heights and new experiences.

     So this is the gift I am giving to myself today, and to each and every woman who may be looking at 60 from one side or the other: spread your wings and ride the currents! The view is spectacular from up here!

     Happy Birthday, Flower Bear!

     And so it is.